Parenting

Subtitle

Today’s children are tomorrow’s leaders. We need to lay a strong foundation on which to build our children's success through life.

Raise your children in the way they
should go,
And when they are old,
They will not turn from it.  
-Ancient Proverb

Children misbehave for all sorts of reasons. It is not because they are out to get you or that you're a bad parent, it might just be that your child is trying to tell you something through his or her behavior. There are often simple steps that any parent can make that will help their children grow to become mature, responsible adults (which is really the goal of parenting). Your job as the parent is train your children so that they themselves can be healthy parents.

Some things that parents need to understand include:

 

  • Discipline – What is the difference between discipline and punishment? How can I maintain authority without being authoritarian?
  • Creative problem solving – how do you help your child succeed?
  • Communication – do your styles collide; are you/they being heard? Do we know each other's love languages and how to speak them to each other? 
  • Dealing with feelings – theirs and yours!
  • Relationship building
  • Behavior contracts and grace
  • Learning your child's love language


All of these things lead to healthy behavior in your children and a solid relationship that builds their sense of self-worth and coping mechanisms.


RESEARCH
Good Parenting is Better Than Drugs
for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in Young Children
A Recent Research Study Summary Points:

Parent behavior training topped medication and other interventions for preschool children at risk of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
Point out that separate analyses of outcomes related to parenting skills and child behavior also yielded moderate effects in favor of the intervention.

 

The Details:
A variety of interventions for ADHD have been developed and evaluated in children and adolescents. However, no information about the comparative efficacy of Parent Behavior Training (PBT) and other types of interventions has been reported. Given the paucity of evidence to inform decision making, the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality sponsored a review and critical examination of published studies involving interventions for ADHD. Specifically, the authors were charged with evaluating the comparative effectiveness of, and adverse events associated with, interventions for preschool children at high risk of ADHD.


Parent behavior training (PBT) topped medication and other interventions for preschool children at risk of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), a systematic literature review showed.


Eight methodologically sound studies of PBT produced the best and most consistent strength of evidence for efficacy, reported Alice Charach, MD, of the Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto, and colleagues online in Pediatrics. However, the investigators found only one good study of medical treatment with methylphenidate (Ritalin), resulting in a low strength of evidence. Combined home and school/daycare interventions yielded inconsistent results.
"The evidence-based PBT interventions included in this review improve parenting skills and improve child disruptive behavior, including core symptoms of ADHD," the authors concluded.


Focus Matters
In this ever-faster world where attention is diffused by ever-present distractions, especially technologically based ones (iphones, ipads, texting, tweeting…), the ability to focus is more challenging than ever. Creating space to focus by unplugging on a regular basis is critically important. Learning techniques of mindful meditation or self-hypnosis has great potential to improve life on so many levels. After all, your quality of life is a direct byproduct of how well you focus and what you focus on. This meta-analytic study shows how important a role parents can play in changing the home environment to reduce the negative effects of ADHD.


Reference:
Interventions for Preschool Children at High Risk for ADHD: A Comparative Effectiveness Review

Alice Charach, Patricia Carson, Steven Fox, Muhammad Usman Ali, Julianna Beckett, and Choon Guan Lim

Pediatrics peds.2012-0974; published ahead of print April 1, 2013, doi:10.1542/peds.2012-0974
 

Some of the things we cover in family/child/parenting sessions include:

 

The Parent Trap

 

This session is designed to explore why children misbehave, what they are telling you, and begin the exploration process of how you currently manage misbehaviour, how those techniques work, and whether there is anything else you could do that would be helpful. We will also talk about authority, discipline, and parenting styles.

 

Wake Up To Reality

 

This session will look at the issues that many parents face including the discipline and punishment traps that we can all fall into. This session will also go through a new method of discipline called "reality discipline" and how to apply it to many given scenarios and many of the main issues most parents face as well as real life examples of what your child does and how to apply this principle there.

 

Caution: Kids Growing Up Here

 

This session looks at what kids needs that parents must deliver. Above these needs, children also have emotional needs. Whether they are 2, 10, 15 or even young adults, children have emotional needs that must be met by their parents. We will begin the process of understanding these needs and ways to determine your child's specific needs. When these needs are met, children are less likely to go "looking for love in all the wrong places".

 

The Key: Amazing Change, Simple Principle

 

This session continues the look at children's emotional and love needs as well as teaches the A,B,C's of self-esteem in children. It is an informative session that will help your draw closer to your child and have them draw closer to you.

 

RESPECT, What's love Got To Do With It

 

This session will talk about discipline and love languages, love and anger and how to love when children fail. This session carries on much of the information you have already learned and applies it to strengthening your child. 

 

Staying Connected To Be Respected

 

This session looks at gaining your child's love and respect and how to keep it forever. In this informative session we will learn about connections between yourself and your child and the communication struggles we can face in those relationships.

 

Check Your Attitude At The Door:

 

This session looks at attitude. The negative attitude that our children can bring out during certain situations or maybe it seems like they need an attitude check regularly. You will learn about courage and communication and changing your child's bad attitude.